Caitlyn Jenner: All The Reasons Why She’s Seen As A Self-Hating And Self-Discriminating Individual In The Trans Community – And Why She Might Actually Have A Point In All Of This

If there’s any family that goes against everything the 1960’s said what a traditional family should look like, it’s the Kardashian-Jenner family. Kris Jenner, the mantra for the family’s business empire, was first married to lawyer Robert Kardashian Sr., who famously represented OJ Simpson in the 1994 murder trial of his wife, Nicole Brown Simpson, and her friend, Ron Goldman. Jenner was best friends with Brown Simpson, and her ex-husband representing OJ Simpson caused a lot of friction within the family at the time.

Following her divorce from Robert Kardashian Sr., Kris married former Olympian, Bruce Jenner, now Caitlyn Jenner. He was stepfather to Kourtney, Kim, Khloe and Rob Kardashian. Kris and Robert and Kardashian managed to pull through and develop a loving friendship following their divorce, and Robert even became an uncle-figure to Kris’ kids with Bruce up until his 2003 death. Kris and Bruce, again, now Caitlyn, were married between 1991 and 2015. Unlike the bond she shared with Robert, Kris hasn’t been able to share that bond with Caitlyn following their separation.

According to a New York Post article, any communication the former couple now has, even 10 years after their divorce, is through management. I honestly can’t say that I blame Kris for having a practically non-existent relationship with Caitlyn. The relationship between Kris and Caitlyn has been strained since Caitlyn’s transition and subsequent public revelations about their marriage, including disagreements about Caitlyn’s transition and Kris’s knowledge of it during their marriage. Caitlyn has also indicated that she’s much closer now to her children from her previous marriages, including Brody Jenner, than to the Kardashian side following her transition, though Caitlyn recently spent special occasions with the Kardashian clan alongside Caitlyn and her biological kids, including Brody. But despite the current lack of contact, Caitlyn has expressed hope that their relationship can be repaired in the future.

Again, I don’t blame Kris for choosing to have a non-existent relationship with Caitlyn, despite the best efforts of her children with her, particularly Kendall. She spent 22 years with a person she thought she knew, but then he turned into someone she didn’t even recognize at all; someone he always wanted to be. As a woman, it’s a slap in the face, as well as what might feel like a complete waste of time. On her part, Caitlyn previously opened up about her relationship with Kris to The Times in 2023, telling the outlet it was love at first sight between them. She said, ‘We hit it off right at the beginning, and we were married after five and a half months. I was infatuated with her, because she was very different from me. But yes, I’d have to say, it was love at first sight.’ In the years before her transition to Caitlyn, it’s been reported that some of her children, including his stepchildren with Kris, as well as Robert Kardashian, witnessed Bruce dress as a woman, and that they never told Kris out of fear of hurting her.

Throughout the years, since her transition, Caitlyn has been actively spending most of her time with the LGBTQ community, particularly the trans community. More particularly, she was friends with Candis Cayne and Sophia Hutchins, who sadly passed away earlier this month at age 29 in an ATV accident. Both of these friendships were made for TV, having been showcased in Caitlyn’s reality series, I Am Cait, originally aired between 2015 and 2016. Caitlyn and Cayne ended their friendship, while she remained friends with Hutchins until the end of her life. In fact, Hutchins passed away near Caitlyn’s premises.

Caitlyn and Cayne became close friends while filming I Am Cait in 2015. They were often seen together on the show and at events, sparking rumors of a romantic relationship, which Cayne denied despite them publicly kissing on the last-ever episode of the series. Cayne, who is known for her progressive views, found it increasingly difficult to reconcile her friendship with Caitlyn, who holds more conservative political views. Cayne stated that she could no longer separate her friendship with Caitlyn from her belief system. She described her as a Fox News cult member. Cayne, as well as others in her circle, attempted to educate Caitlyn on progressive views and the importance of supporting the trans community, but these efforts were unsuccessful. 

I don’t blame Candis Cayne for end ending her friendship with Caitlyn, much like I don’t blame Kris Jenner for choosing to not have a relationship with Caitlyn following their divorce. I have to admit, Caitlyn’s views on the LGBTQ community is very dated and hypocritical. On one hand, she expecting equal rights for herself, and on the other, she says that trans people shouldn’t have the right to marry; that a marriage is one between a man and a woman. Her interview on The Ellen DeGeneres Show was absolutely unforgettable; diabolical, I’d even say. One thing I do agree on is her stance on transgender people competing in Olympic sports. More particularly, her stance on trans swimmer Lia Thomas competing in the women’s swimming team at the 2024 Olympics.

Of Thomas trying to fight to overturn a ban preventing transgender women from competing against biological ones, Caitlyn previously said, ‘Well, for the last six, nine months, I really haven’t heard much about her ever since the Olympic Committee came out and basically said, ‘you’re not eligible.’ Now she’s trying to fight that, and I think she’s doing it for the publicity. I don’t know any other reason why she should, I mean, why she would. Nobody knew of her until she was beating your butt and got into women’s swimming. Then all of a sudden she was on the covers of magazines, and she’s just living up all the pressure. She’s getting clicks all over the place. She’s getting followers all over the place to see what this story is.’

Listen, I’m all for equality. I am, after all, a disabled woman. But I’m also a realist. Saying that transgender women should be allowed to compete in women’s sports alongside biological women is just the same as saying disabled people should be allowed to compete with able-bodied individuals. Our bodies are simply not the same. I considered competing in the Olympics when I was a kid, also in swimming. But never did it cross my mind to compete alongside able-bodied athletes. It always would’ve been alongside disabled people in the Paralympics. That said, we have an individual Olympic championship for people with disabilities, why can’t we have the same opportunity for athletes in the transgender community?

Back in 2015, when Caitlyn first came out as a transgender woman, she accepted the Arthur Ashe Courage Award at the ESPYs, and used her platform to bring attention to the struggles that transgender individuals face, particularly transgender young people. In her acceptance speech, she called on the crowd to take up the cause of transgender rights, a cause that, as she described, was about accepting people for who they are. She said, ‘If you want to call me names. Make Jokes. Doubt my intentions. Go ahead. Because the reality is … I can take it. But for the thousands of kids out there coming to terms with who they are. They shouldn’t have to take it.’

This came after transgender teenager Leelah Alcorn took her own life due to the abuse she endured at the hands of the adults in her life. Before her death, she left a note that read, ‘The only way I will rest in peace is if one day transgender people aren’t treated the way I was – they’re treated like humans with valid feelings and human rights. Gender needs to be taught about in schools, the earlier the better. My death needs to mean something.’ But this is more than just about acceptance. This is more than just about accepting people who might not fit the norm of a what society considers to be ‘normal’. Instead, it’s about what’s right. It’s about understanding that sometimes, diversity doesn’t mean equality.

Dylan Mulvany, a transgender tiktoker, previously posted a video on the platform where she declared that the general public should normalize women having bulges instead of staring at them in public. In 2022, Senator Marsha Blackburn tweeted out an old video of the social media star talking about normalizing different body types and giving grace to trans individuals still trying to figure out how to present. In the clip, Mulvaney revealed that she was struggling with wearing tight clothes because some people at the mall would obviously stare at her crotch. She called Mulvaney’s take on the matter absurd. Caitlyn, on her part, echoed that sentiment. She tweeted at the time, ‘Let’s not ‘normalize’ any of what this person is doing. There is a difference between acceptance and tolerance, and normalizing exposing your genitals in a public way and a public place. I do not support that at all, in the slightest. Dylan…congrats your trans with a penis.’

Mulvaney response to Caitlyn and Blackburn’s criticism was, ‘In this moment, I am not as comfortable talking about my private parts as I was when I made that video, and it felt like I got outed. I didn’t fully know how to tuck that early on. I was still wearing men’s Calvin Klein underwear.’ She added that Caitlyn’s comments were especially hurtful considering she was a part of that community. She continued the conversation while directly addressing the former Olympian, ‘You’ve been accepted by a group of people that very clearly does not accept me, and nearly every day this week, I have been called a freak, a child predator, an absurdity. I am none of those things that your cohorts are painting me to be, and my question for you is: don’t you feel a little lonely over there? These people that you’re standing with, I don’t know if they have your best intentions at heart. But they will use you to make mine and the trans community’s life a lot harder than it already is.’

I’m no expert on the matter, and I’m not even going to pretend to be. But as long as we’re on the subject of gender and femininity, I’ll say this: transgender women can showcase more femininity than biological ones, because they’re the ones that actually want to be in the body of a woman. One’s genitalia doesn’t make her any less of a woman. Transgender women, assigned male at birth, often embrace femininity as part of their gender identity and expression. This can involve a range of expressions, from adopting traditionally feminine clothing and behaviors to experiencing their femininity in ways that challenge or redefine societal norms. Femininity for transgender women is a personal and multifaceted experience, not a singular or prescribed one. To break things down more thoroughly:

• Femininity as Identity: For many transgender women, femininity is deeply intertwined with their sense of self, a core aspect of their gender identity. It’s not just about outward appearance but also about an internal feeling of being feminine. 

• Variety of Expressions: Transgender women’s experiences of femininity vary greatly. Some may embrace traditional feminine clothing, makeup, and behaviors. Others may choose to express their femininity in ways that are more fluid, unconventional, or challenge gender norms. 

• Transfeminine Identity: The term “transfeminine” is often used to describe AMAB (assigned male at birth) individuals who identify with femininity, including trans women and non-binary people. It highlights the connection to femininity that many trans women share. 

• Social and Cultural Context: Experiences of femininity are shaped by social and cultural contexts. Transgender women may navigate societal expectations of femininity while also seeking to express their own unique sense of it. 

• Transfeminism and Challenging Norms: Some transfeminist perspectives challenge the idea that femininity is solely a social construction and emphasize the multifaceted nature of gender, including both intrinsic and social aspects. Transfeminism also recognizes the intersectionality of gender and other identities, such as race and class, in shaping experiences of femininity. 

• Feminist Perspectives: Feminist views on transgender topics vary. Some feminists view trans rights as integral to intersectional feminism, while others hold gender-critical views that deny the validity of trans identities. 

• Personal Journey: For many trans women, the journey of embracing femininity is a personal and ongoing process of self-discovery and expression. It’s not always about conforming to external expectations but about aligning one’s outward presentation with their inner sense of self. 

It’s actually utterly disgusting that Dylan Mulvany felt like she even had to explain herself to the world when it came down to people questioning her womanhood based on her body parts. Even if she DOES, in fact, have a penis, this factor alone doesn’t make her any less of a woman or any more of a man. Femininity isn’t solely biological. It’s also shaped by societal expectations and cultural norms. Historically, femininity has been associated with traits like nurturing, empathy, gentleness, and emotional expressiveness. Modern understandings of femininity acknowledge that these traits are not exclusive to women who are born female, and that women can express themselves in diverse and powerful ways. Ultimately, what it means to be a woman and express femininity is deeply personal and varies from individual to individual. In essence, femininity is a dynamic concept encompassing a range of expressions, influenced by both social expectations and individual choices, and womanhood is the experience of living within this framework. 

Mulvany had every right to voice her frustration with clothing manufacturers. I myself feel this frustration as a disabled woman. There are certain clothes I really liked that I couldn’t purchase for myself that I knew I wouldn’t be able to wear due to my disability and physical limitations. It f*cking sucks. Society doesn’t adapt to people who don’t fit their norm. Instead, it’s us that has to adapt to society. That in itself was, I think, Mulvany point in the TikTok video in question. It wasn’t about her genitalia. It was about her asking society to help her make her life just a little bit easier through her gender identity and transition. Caitlyn’s comments on the matter were unnecessary and unacceptable.

BUT…

And there’s a big but here. You see, in her response to Caitlyn’s criticism of her, Mulvany called it not a Woman Of The Year move of her to do. But did Caitlyn ever seek out to be that in the first place? It never appeared to be the case. She herself declared herself to not be a trans advocate when she tweeted so as a response to Dustin Burnham criticizing her for voting for Trump following the 2024 presidential election. He wrote on Twitter, now known as X, ‘Fascinating seeing the most visible and vocal trans advocate in America supporting Trump. This is a true unity ticket.’ To which she replied, ‘I am not a trans advocate. I wouldn’t wish it upon anyone. But, I am a trans person.’ Many social media users criticized her for her beliefs. One user wrote, ‘I’m not an advocate for gaming, I am a gamer but I wouldn’t wish it on anybody to be a gamer….you see how f*****g stupid that sounds?’ Another user wrote, ‘She identifies with money and white power, not the LGBTQ community.’ She also previously criticized President Joe Biden in a 2023 interview on The Dinosaur Hour for his woke views. She said, ‘I see these, ‘Trans women are real women.’ No, you’re not. OK, that’s the bottom line.’ She’s also labeled herself as a trans person rather than a transgender woman.

I can’t say I fully disagree with Caitlyn. I’d even go as far as saying I fully agree with Caitlyn. You see, Trump asserted that asserted ‘medical professionals are maiming and sterilizing a growing number of impressionable children under the radical and false claim that adults can change a child’s sex.’ Many things have changed for the transgender community since Trump came back to office. For one, the State Department promptly stopped granting requests for new or updated passports with gender markers that don’t conform with the new definition. The agency is no longer issuing the documents with an “X” that some people who identify as neither male nor female request and will not honor requests to change the gender markers between “M” and “F” for transgender people. Transgender women in federal custody have also been ordered to move to men’s prisons. Trump has also set to ban transgender people in the military. Trump’s executive order has also sought out to block education, protection and support for the transgender community in the school system. It calls on the Education Department to come up with a policy blocking schools from using federal funds to support students who are socially transitioning or using their curriculum to promote the idea that gender can be fluid, along with certain teachings about race. The order would block schools from requiring teachers and other school staff to use names and pronouns that align with transgender students’ gender identify rather than the sex they were assigned at birth.

While I find it utterly ridiculous and absurd that transgender people have to be assigned as their biological genders, I do believe there’s some truths in such matters as transgender people in custody moving to the prison cells of their biological genders, as well as the school system removing education on trans community, as well as Trump’s views on medical professionals maiming and sterilizing a growing number of impressionable children under the radical and false claim that adults can change a child’s sex. Just like my stance on Lia Thomas fighting to be able to compete in women’s sports, moving transgender women in custody to men’s prison cells has to do with just how different transgender women’s bodies are to those who are biologically female. And then comes the subject of youth and the school system….

You can be sure I have A LOT of opinions on this matter. Caitlyn herself said that should teach reading, writing, and arithmetic – not gender pronouns. More particularly, she said, ‘Leave our children alone. I am so against this. To see what has happened to our educational system, it started back in 1979 when Jimmy Carter started federalizing education in this country with the Department of Education. Over these years teachers’ unions have become more and more empowered and emboldened to do exactly what they want and take the parents out of this. I am 100% for parental rights. I helped raise 10 children, and 21 grandchildren that are just starting the educational process. I want parents to be emboldened. They are the ones that are in charge of their children, not the schools. I want schools to teach reading, writing, arithmetic, not gender pronouns and all of this, leave our kids alone. I look at my own life, if I would have been growing up in this environment, when you are trans, you have your whole life. I don’t know where my life would have gone if I had been growing up in today’s society with the teachers and the teachers’ unions having so much power over things.’

There you have it. It’s pretty self explanatory; or at least I think so. It shouldn’t be the school district’s responsibility to teach children of pronouns, transgender issues, or any other LGBTQ subjects. And no, I’m not being a jerk here or a prejudiced individual. I don’t think that it’s school district’s responsibility to teach kids on disability either. Let teachers teach what school is supposed to teach kids – reading, writing, math, science, art. Anything else should be taught at the responsibility of the children’s parents. Kids can also learn through peers, media, or social networks. The school system teaches, or is supposed to teach, children a wide range of subjects, including core academic areas like math, science, English, and social studies, as well as subjects like art, music, and physical education. The specific curriculum varies by province and grade level, with a focus on building foundational skills in the early years and offering more specialized options in later grades. Additionally, schools aim to develop social and emotional skills, critical thinking, and problem-solving abilities. To look at the matter more closely:

• Core Academic Subjects:
  
  • Mathematics: Students learn arithmetic, algebra, geometry, and other mathematical concepts. 
  • Science: They explore biology, chemistry, physics, and earth science. 
  • English: Students develop reading, writing, and communication skills. 
  • Social Studies: They learn about history, geography, civics, and social structures. 
  • French: In Ontario, French as a second language is often a core subject, with immersion programs available in some schools. 
    
• Other Subjects:
  
  • Art: Students explore various art forms, including drawing, painting, and sculpture. 
  • Music: They learn about music theory, history, and performance. 
  • Physical Education: Students participate in physical activities and learn about health and fitness. 
    
• Skills Development:
  
  • Critical Thinking: Schools encourage students to analyze information, solve problems, and make reasoned judgments. 
  • Collaboration: Students learn to work together in groups, share ideas, and negotiate. 
  • Communication: They develop both written and verbal communication skills. 
  • Problem-Solving: Students learn to identify problems, develop solutions, and evaluate outcomes. 
  • Social-Emotional Learning: Schools also focus on developing students’ self-awareness, social skills, and emotional regulation. 
    
• Curriculum Evolution:
  
  • The curriculum is regularly updated to reflect changes in society and advancements in knowledge. 
  • In later grades, students have more opportunities to choose elective courses that align with their interests and career goals. 
    
• Beyond Academics:
  
  • Schools provide a structured environment where students can develop social skills, build relationships, and learn about different cultures. 
  • Extracurricular activities, such as sports teams, clubs, and arts programs, offer additional opportunities for growth and development. 

Everything that’s taught at school should be age appropriate. Teaching children about trans issues ISN’T age appropriate. Such a complex issue may be confusing for young children and that discussing it in school could undermine parental authority. Teaching about gender identity could confuse children, lead to feelings of gender dysphoria, or negatively impact their developing understanding of themselves. Schools, instead, should focus on teaching core academic subjects and avoid controversial social issues. Everything else should be left at the responsibility of the children’s parents. It’s the parents that should be teaching their kids on inclusivity and acceptance, not the school district. This goes far beyond the 12th grade curriculum, but post-secondary education as well. I even remember I had a professor in college who was most certainly part of the LGBTQ community. He had us, the students, read a book about a boy who was gay as part of his curriculum to teach us on gay issues. My take on the matter was… WHY?! I go to school to learn about subjects relating to my program and extra curriculum related subjects such as movies and TV. If I want to learn about gay issues, I can go to the internet. And that’s me saying it – a bisexual woman.

When it comes down to teaching children about trans issues in schools, teachers can make it their mission to promote the ideology on gender identity. This in itself can create conflict and confusion within themselves. In my personal belief, no child should ever be provided medical care to change their gender identity – ever. In fact, no person should ever be provided that choice until the age of at least 25, which is the age when the brain fully develops. There’s just absolutely no way that a young child, or even adult, I’ll know exactly what they want to do before that age, and statistics show exactly that. We see more and more transgender people detransitioning – the process of stopping or reversing aspects of a gender transition, such as halting hormone therapy, reverting to a birth-assigned name or gender, or undoing surgical changes. Though the statistics are still relatively low and reasons aren’t always related to not wanting to be the gender they feel they are, the stats are still there.

If it were my son who told me he wants to change his gender before the age of 25, I’d tell him that he can express himself however he wants to, he can dress however he wants to, he can be called however he wants, he can speak however he wants to, he can refer to himself however he wants to. But the surgical procedures necessary to complete the gender transition will only be allowed at the age of 25 and older, and we’ll sign a ‘contract’ to make sure we have a written agreement for it. If at 25 he still wants to do it, he’ll show the contract back to me and his did, and we’ll reconsider. But no matter what, we’ll always let him know that he’s loved and accepted by us. We just don’t want him to have any regrets. And if he doesn’t have any gender identity issues within himself, we’ll make sure to teach him empathy and acceptance towards those that do.

Sophia Hutchins, on her part, described President Trump as the best president for the LGBTQ community. In a social media post made last year, the now-late transgender conservative consultant and entrepreneur wrote, ‘The facts are Donald Trump is the president for world peace. Donald Trump is the president for economic prosperity. Donald Trump is the president to get our country to get back on track, not just domestically but all across the globe. Put LGBT social issues aside, which by the way, he is the best president for LGBT people in the history of the country, folks.’

So it goes, Caitlyn Jenner might seem like someone who’s self-destructive, a hypocritical and a self-discriminating individual who comes from privilege. But she’s not. She comes from the ideology of realism and a life lived, which is something to some others, particularly in her community, might see as offensive. Some see me as a self-discriminating, hateful person because personally, I have very similar beliefs on people with disabilities. I’m in no way saying that Caitlyn Jenner is the perfect person to represent the trans community. She doesn’t even acknowledge herself as being that. But people in the trans community and beyond also have to realize that she MIGHT have a point in what she’s been telling us all along.